One of the most difficult places to be can be a social gathering where you don’t know anyone or there is no one you know nearby.
How do you start a conversation with someone in this situation?
What I do is simply ask them in a friendly way:
“So, how do you know the host?”
Or use the name of the hosts of the party e.g.
“So, how do you know John and Mary?”
The fact is if people have been invited to a social event they must know the hosts (people whose event it is) or someone else who knows them.
This conversation starter is brilliant because it also gets a conversation going – rarely is it a one word response.
They may say they are neighbors, work colleagues, friends of many years. Most people will launch straight into a story about how they know the hosts. You can then tell them how you know the hosts as well.
After a few exchanges remember to say your name as well….I casually say after a minute or two of discussion “Sorry, my name is Mark by the way”
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