Category Archives for "Social Confidence"

When you are surrounded by a group of people you don’t know, it’s important for you look to own your environment. Make them aware that you are open to communication and that you are not somebody who is just going to sit quietly in the corner. It’s not just about what you say Keep in […]

When somebody says something to you and you reply or interrupt with the word “but”, it tends to suggest that you are probably going to disagree with everything that they have just said. The other person then gets defensive and will just look for more and more evidence to support the case that they were […]

This Confidence quiz was originally published in “Good Housekeeping” Magazine (February 2014). Following the publication of my book “How To Talk To Absolutely Anyone” (click here for details of the book), Good Housekeeping Magazine asked me to put together a quiz for their readers. Here are 6 questions to quickly discover how confident you are in everyday […]

You need to be aware of your potential “secondary communication”. This is when people assume or deduce something that you didn’t intend from what you say. Secondary communication is what happens outside the actual words you say – from the impression you create to the multiple interpretations your words are open to. An example Let’s […]

People often give up far too soon when looking to develop a new skill. This is very often the case with learning to talk with confidence to people we don’t know. They usually give up because they feel uncomfortable every time they attempt to start a conversation or talk to someone. They give up because […]

If you want a challenge – here is one for you. Not that it is difficult – it’s just in a situation that pretty much everyone avoids communication. I am talking about the lift or elevator. This works whether there is just one other person in there or a whole group of people. The important […]

One of the biggest reasons people hesitate from speaking to people they don’t know is the fear of what might happen. How the other person might react, or in most cases a worry about what the other person will think of them. The worry of what other people might think is very common, in fact […]

One of the most difficult places to be can be a social gathering where you don’t know anyone or there is no one you know nearby. So what do you do? How do you start a conversation with someone in this situation? What I do is simply ask them in a friendly way: “So, how […]

We hear “fuzzy words” as I like to call them in our language all the time. Words like “confidence” or “I’m not comfortable about it” or “It’s too difficult” and also things like “That person’s unreliable“. Well, what do they mean by those words? Get people to be specific when you hear a “fuzzy word” […]

Talk to Absolutely Anyone? Talk to Strangers? What’s that all about? Well, it’s all about my belief and the belief that others who are able to speak to absolutely anyone seem to hold or acknowledge. Well, I believe no matter where we are today it is limited by the number of people that we currently […]